Last year I made a vision board. I was working with a counsellor and she’d set me the task of creating a vision board of what I wanted for the year to come. I haven’t looked at it for months. For a while it was pinned up in my bedroom – I was staying with my parents during the first Covid lock down and made use of the pin-board in my old bedroom. I used to lie in bed and look at it, imagining all the things I wanted to happen – all that I hoped to manifest for myself and my son.
- A house – I found a picture of a lovely end-of-terrace, three-storey townhouse with bay windows and a green front door. Dreamy
- A garden – I lived in a first-floor flat at the time and wanted desperately to have a garden for my little boy to play in
- A home – somewhere I could design, decorate and feel was truly mine. I owned the aforementioned flat but it had negative associations for me which meant it never really felt like home
- A bedroom – my flat was small and my son had the only bedroom, so my bed was in the living room – practical, but not exactly ideal
- Beauty – at the time I wasn’t allowing myself to spend much on my skincare (or anything me-related, for that matter) and I wanted that to change
- Love – a supportive, loving, committed relationship (there’s even a diamond ring drawn in wax crayon!)
- Nature – more time spent outside, surrounded by green and enjoying the natural world
Quite a lot to expect from 12 months, I know.
When I moved back home, my vision board was taken down and folded up into the back of my diary for safe-keeping. It’s been there ever since. Last week I realised I hadn’t seen it for months and so I finally dug it out.
Something about the approaching change of seasons always makes me feel nostalgic. It feels like a good time to reflect on the vision I had for my life a little over a year ago – to take stock of the progress I have made. And perhaps start looking ahead to the next 12 months and what I hope it will hold.
Looking back at this vision board I was astonished to realise that the things I had hoped to manifest I can now see around me.
I can hardly believe it myself, when I think back to where I was at the beginning of the first lock down, and yet it’s true. And I want to share it with you because dreams do come true – but they need a little help.
Manifest! Love, Home, Beauty
I met H online during lock down and we started dating – socially distanced of course. When I returned home after the lock down ended, H came with me and we’ve been virtually inseparable ever since. In May we celebrated 12 months together – he made steak and we drank red wine. Sometimes I can hardly believe it, but it’s real.
At the beginning of July, H moved into an end-of-terrace house (no bay windows…yet!) with three bedrooms and a large garden. It’s in a village surrounded by green space and with a country park just over the road. We’ve started work on the garden, which has been neglected for years, and even have a woodpecker regularly visiting our bird feeder! I still live elsewhere but spend as much time there as I can.
After years of insisting to myself (and others) that there wasn’t enough room in my budget for any treats for myself, I’ve called BS on my own assumptions and actually looked properly at my finances. Careful budgeting and regularly tracking my expenditure has proved me wrong and indeed there is room in my budget! Now I buy myself the most gorgeous moisturiser which smells divine, as well as other bits and pieces to help me take care of my skin. It feels so good to look after myself physically, bringing a touch of pampering to my daily routine.
So that’s love, a house, a garden, a bedroom, beauty and nature taken care of! In around a year, almost all of my vision board has come into being. And for most of that time it was folded up and hidden away.
Think what I could achieve if I was looking at it every day, truly feeling into the joy of the life I wish to manifest.
Sounds a bit ‘woo-woo’, tbh
I know, I know – but stick with me, please.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to suggest that this all just happened, without any hard work on my part. It required effort, time and a pretty serious look at myself and the habits and behaviours I had allowed to become the norm.
I’d had a string of relationships with unsuitable men before I met H. I knew this and decided that enough was enough. I wanted a serious relationship that was going to go the distance. A man who would support me (emotionally, not financially) and be there for my son, too. So I took steps to bring myself into contact with those kinds of men. I read a brilliant book about relationships and falling in love (turns out the key is to love oneself – who knew?!) and then started to navigate the world of dating apps with an open mind and a ready heart.
And it happened.
Similarly, when H and I decided we wanted to move in together, there were several obstacles we had to overcome. We sat down and created a proper budget, working out what we could realistically afford. When it came to the house, our budget meant we had to compromise on a few things. But in the end, we found the right place.
And it happened.
Give the Universe a hand
My point is that to manifest the life you want, you need to do a little work. I’d suggest starting with the below:
- Work out what it is you want to manifest
What does your dream life look like? Where do you live? Where do you work? Are you married? Do you have children? What does a normal day look like for you?
Write all this down and once you’re happy with it, hit the newsagent for some magazines. Then flip through them and find pictures that align with your dream life. Cut them out and stick them to a large sheet of paper. Take your time over this and enjoy it! I added some drawings in wax crayon and some words that had resonance for me to mine – ‘Love’, ‘Nature’ and ‘Home’ for example.
Voila – vision board!
- Be open to receive
So the Universe knows what it is you want now – excellent!
The next step is to be open to the idea of actually receiving it. Or, better yet, believe it has already come into existence.
This is a tricky concept to wrap the brain around, I know. If you’re not already living your dream life, how can it already exist? The idea is to believe that the Universe is abundant and therefore your dream life is already out there somewhere, within your reach.
Although my vision board ended up folded away somewhere, for the first few months it was pinned up in my room where I would see it multiple times a day. I spent time looking at it and believing each of the things was within reach.
Fake it till you Manifest it
I didn’t find it easy, looking at my vision board believing I already had the life I could see there. I had recently been dumped, I had no prospects of a drastic increase in income, which meant a larger home with a garden seemed impossible, and I felt there was no room in my budget for luxuries like face cream. In fact, when I first created my vision board, the idea that I’d achieve even one of the things on it in the space of a year felt laughable.
But I gave it a go. And over time, not only did I start to believe that I truly could achieve these things, I started to believe that I deserved them.
This was a big turning point for me.
We all want our dreams to come true, but believing that we deserve them is a different thing. And we all do – truly.
Once I believed I deserved them I started taking more and more steps towards achieving my goals – giving the Universe a helping hand. Things like creating a proper monthly budget for myself showed me where my money was going and I could see there was definitely room for a few little luxuries. Things like dating with an open mind, rather than judging someone as soon as I opened the door.
These are the things that make a difference and help you manifest the life you desire.
Manifest your dreams, don’t just wait for them to happen to you.
It felt good to look back and reflect on these dreams – some of which felt completely out of reach a year ago.
It encourages me to try again and I have already created a new vision board for the year to come – full of bigger, better, greener, more beautiful things!
And the difference this time? I KNOW I can manifest it all into my life, and much more quickly than might seem possible.
Bring. It. On.